When Being Helpful Hurts: A Guide to Better Boundaries When You’re Feeling Drained
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” ~Tony Gaskins It was a Tuesday afternoon when I said the word…
How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Other People’s Strong Emotions
“It is not your responsibility to figure out what someone else is feeling and why. Let go of the illusion that ‘fixing’ their bad mood will make you feel better.”…
The Hidden Cost of Trusting the Universe More Than Yourself
“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” —Rumi The last days of the year felt like the right time to let…
Letting Go of the “Good Person” Identity and Spiritual Expectations
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~Lao Tzu For many years, I was deeply involved in spiritual communities—satsangs, meditation centers, ashrams, and…
Staying Present in a Life That Isn’t What You Expected
“To live without arriving is to learn how to stay.” ~attributed to the Buddha For most of my life, I assumed that arriving was the point. Like many people, I…
When Love Feels Like Pain: Lessons I Learned the Hard Way
“Sometimes the person you love the most is the one who teaches you the hardest lesson about yourself.” ~Unknown I once thought that being in a relationship meant sacrificing parts…
The Simple Words That Reshaped How I See Myself
“Only say good words to your child. Even if it looks like they’re not listening, if you repeat those kind words a hundred or a thousand times, they will eventually…
Want to Eat Healthier and Feel Better in Your Skin?
Would you say you’re a healthy eater? If not, is this a goal for you? For years, people thought of me as healthy because I rarely ate meat or desserts.…
What Losing My Brother Taught Me About Addiction, Shame, and Love
“Protest any labels that turn people into things. Words are important. If you want to care for something, you call it a ‘flower’; if you want to kill something, you…
Breaking the Cycle of “There’s Something Wrong with Me”
“The wound is where the light enters you.” ~Rumi “I can’t do anything right. There’s something wrong with me.” My daughter said these words quietly, almost as if she didn’t…