The Year I Tried to Optimize My Way into Love
“Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.” ~William Bruce Cameron I noticed it halfway through the conversation. We were outside a café…
A Simple Question That Helps When I Feel Anxious
“In every walk with nature one receives far more than he seeks.” ~John Muir I used to think life was like an obstacle course, a series of hurdles you either…
How the People We Love Live On in Us
“What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~Helen Keller Growing up, I thought my father was a…
When “Protecting Your Peace” Is Really Avoidance
“Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it.” ~Anonymous My sister called four times before I picked up. Not four times in one day—four…
When the Old Life Doesn’t Fit but the New One Isn’t Clear Yet
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~Maya Angelou There’s a strange season in life when…
When Your Feelings Were Never Safe at Home
“The fuel of life is feeling. If we’re not filled up in childhood, we must fill ourselves as adults.” ~Jonice Webb, author of Running on Empty I was nine years…
When Your Sadness Starts Coloring Everything
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” ~Viktor Frankl A few weeks ago, I moved to a new city…
I Broke My Patterns and Love Still Didn’t Last
“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.” ~Alexander Den Heijer He was intelligent, well-read, and kind. A good father, careful about…
Why Self-Care Matters Most When You Have No Time
“Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first; it means me too.” ~L.R. Knost We live in a society that celebrates pushing through; burnout is often worn as a badge…
What Happened When I Finally Stopped Saying “I’m Fine”
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~Rumi The first winter, I learned to lie cheerfully. “How are you settling in?” someone would ask, and I would…